Complicated Families Can Make For Holiday Complications 

As our families get more complicated, so do the holidays. Most modern families no longer consist of Mom, Dad, 2.5 kids, and one or two adoring grandparents. Instead, you’re dealing with ex-spouses, their new partners, and a mix of children, step-children, and various half brothers and sisters. With that comes a lot of complications to your already busy holiday schedule. 

While each blended family is different, there are some things you can do to simplify the situation and more importantly make sure everyone involved gets to enjoy the holidays. Here are my three ground rules that have served us well.  

Find Common Ground  

No matter how strained the relationship may be, start by trying to find some common ground. For example, if you share children with your ex, this would be giving the kids a nice Christmas. Start there and keeping this most important goal in mind, make your holiday plans. If nothing else, it gives you a starting point, and a reason to talk and make things work this Holiday season, no matter how that ends up looking.  

Finding common ground can be tough when you don’t get along with part of your extended and bended family, but I promise it will be well worth it and make the holiday season that much nicer and more peaceful for yourself and your loved ones.  

Be Ready To Compromise  

Blended families involve a lot of people and with that come different commitments, traditions, and expectations. In order to make things work this holiday season, be prepared to compromise. Maybe you want the kids at home Christmas morning while your ex wants to take them to Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve. Make it work, even if it means you have to take a drive across town at two in the morning.  

The same goes with traditions. Each family has their own traditions, decorations, and holiday plans that tend to clash when you blend two families together. Sit down and have a talk early on in the season with everyone involved. Find out what’s most important to each family member and find compromises that work for everyone. Blend your traditions, and don’t be afraid to make some new ones as well.  

Practice Makes Perfect  

Last but not least, don’t expect things to go off without a hitch during your first blended holiday season. It takes time to make this work. New traditions aren’t created in a day. Keep working at it, keep practicing, and before long you will find your stride and come up with the new perfect holiday season for your complicated, but loveable family.